New piece up at Project Hot Mess….
“There are so many illnesses that are not necessarily visible to the human eye. There are secret battles some of us fight day in and day out. Often times we face these illnesses by ourselves or with only a handful of loved ones by our side.
One of the most common psychiatric disorders around the world is anxiety disorder. It’s a debilitating, lonely, and frightening condition to live with. I know this because I am a lifelong sufferer. Anxiety disorder is often misunderstood and misrepresented in media and popular culture. Here are 7 things that you might not realize about having anxiety, from someone that lives with it every day”
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I had the honor of participating in the launch team for Sarah Philpott’s new book, “Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child After Pregnancy Loss.” From the first page, this book touched a part of my heart that I had closed off since late 2015 – the part that I had “locked down” since I lost two of my own babies in April 2015 and November 2015.
The book features 31 chapters of stories, prayers, ideas, insights, and a “soul work” tips that the reader can use on their road of grieving and remembering their baby in Heaven. From chapters such as “Seeking Medical Answers” & “Words Do Hurt,” this book touched on a lot of subjects that severely affected me in my personal miscarriage experiences. It brought me some peace on my search to find answers as to why they happened and the hurtful words people use to describe my losses.
I wish would have had this book two years ago. It could have saved me a lot of pain. But, I’m glad that it made it’s way to me now. I am so happy to be a part of sending this out into the world. As part of my participation, I was given two copies of the book to giveaway. I gave the first copy to my local hospital, “The Foundation at CVPH” to give to a mom who has recently lost her baby or to pass around the local bereavement group. They were so happy to receive it and I was happy to give it to them too.
I would like to give the second copy away to another mom (or dad) in grief via my blog’s Facebook page. Whether you lost your sweet baby 37 years ago or yesterday, this book can help take some of the pain away. I’d like to ask those that think they could benefit from this book to please private message me either their name or the name of a friend/loved one that they’d like to see the book go to. I will collect all of the names and randomly choose a winner to send a copy to via USPS.
In honor of two babies that I lost – who I refer to as Bayley and Charlee – Bay was due on October 28th, 2015 and I got pregnant with Charlee around that time, I’d like to open the contest starting today and I will pick the winner on Saturday, October 28th – for my two sweet angels.
Please private message me with any questions or with your submissions. Please don’t feel that you have to tell me your full story – just a name (first/last) is acceptable. But, as a mom to two angel babies I am always receptive to hearing stories of other angels that have gone to Heaven too soon. ❤
Everyone else can pickup a copy of “Loved Baby” from the distributors listed below. ❤
Latest up on Her View From Home…
““She lost the baby.”
“She had a miscarriage.”
“The baby died.”
“I’m sorry, there’s no heartbeat.”
These are all words no woman ever wants to hear. Simple phrases strung together that are every expectant parents’ worse nightmare. Nobody ever expects it to be them.
“That won’t happen to me.”
I thought that once myself. Until it happened to me – twice.”
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New one up at Bluntmoms:
“Being a mom is hard. It’s amazing, wonderful, and every other descriptive word you can imagine for “the best thing in the enter world.” But, it’s really, really hard too! After I became a first-time mom in 2013, I joined a few online moms groups to have a resource of other moms to reach out to for those moments when being a mom was just too hard. Of course, I had real-life mom friends including my own mom and older sister, but it was nice to have a community online that I could talk to at any time during the day and maybe to talk about some things I didn’t want to share with my real-life people.
My favorite group was this group I found on Facebook that had a funny name and a large following. Moms would post all kinds of questions and opinions. Some questions were general and popular in nature (breastfeeding, labor, etc.), but some were not the normal type of questions asked in other groups I was in. I remember one mom asked for advice on a situation with her baby daddy cheating on her while she was pregnant with their second child. She got a lot of great answers and suggestions from the group on the situation! Another mom griped about how cheap her daycare provider was in regards to not including meals in the cost of sending her child there. It was kind of funny because unbeknownst to her, her daycare provider was actually in the group and saw the post. I’m not sure how that situation panned out.”
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New piece on Her View…
“It’s a real thing! WebMD estimates that “slightly more than 10% of new dads also become depressed before or after their baby’s birth.” PPD in women is not talked about all that much in this day and age, so it’s no surprise that most people have never heard of the male version.
Watching Adam Busby go through it on TV reminded me of my own husband after the births of both of our kids. He was easily frustrated, distant, and very pessimistic. My husband has never been like upbeat Ned Flanders (“The Simpsons”), he’s more of a cross between snarky, yet supportive Dan Connor from “Roseanne” and sturdy and strong Ned Stark from “Game of Thrones” in his overall persona and parenting style. So, for him to be withdrawn and dispirited was very unlike him.”
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New piece at Project Hot Mess comes out today…
“We live in a culture of labels. Whether or not we like it we are all instantly judged on how we look, act, live, who we love, where we worship (or don’t), our jobs, where we live, how we parent, our health, and so on. You name it and someone has been judged because of it.
It’s really the way the world has always been. As far back as anyone can remember people have been judged. Although, some would say the world is a harsher place with labeling than perhaps it has ever been. The invention of social media has given people free rein to more or less do and say whatever they want. Some people completely lose their manners and rules of etiquette and kindness are often thrown right out the window online.”
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New piece up on Her View…
“I know what it feels like to be obsessed with conceiving. To visualize what your life would look like with a baby. To pick out baby names for your nonexistent child. To track and chart and map out almost to the hour when your most fertile windows were. It is exhausting!”